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My work involves deep conversations and deep attempts to change people. People come to therapy for a variety of reasons and with a lot of baggage. Almost always, part of the baggage is what they used to call 'transference': powerful persistent feelings from childhood that the client (unknowingly) perceives as coming from the therapist. At the end of a typical work day, I have struggled, lovingly, through the emotional slime of five or more otherwise intelligent, likable, good people. Most of my clients adore me, and they look forward to our meetings. I try to keep the dialogue reciprocal but there is no getting away from the fact that most of these sessions feature me as emotional and life coach ringleader. Which is well and good except that sometimes I need a break.

My ideal partner--my fantasy partner, because I haven't found her yet--is loaded with transference too. In addition to the predictable qualities--good looks, high IQ, sexiness, socially and vocationally successful--I am searching for the woman who can read me just by looking into my eyes. If anyone fitting this description is reading this, she knows of what I speak. Perhaps in future blogs I will elaborate, but I have made my main point. I am after a sexual/emotional/psychological experience that involves the risk of erasure of personal boundaries, limits, and assumptions, and leads to the very heart of the human labyrinth. 

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